Sex and Dating Rule #31: If He Says Hes Not Looking for a Relationship...

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Does this sound familiar: You meet a great guy. He's super attractive. Smart. Sexy. Ya'll have so much in common from how you like your coffee to similar political beliefs and after spending time with him you realize he'll be the perfect father for the 2.3 kids you all will have together. The problem: He says he's not looking for a relationship right now but he'd love to be friends. So of course you agree because you just know that once he gets to know you (and we mean know in all possible meanings of the word) then he'll know you're his Mrs. Right just as you already know he's your Mr. Right. Right? Wrong.

How many times have you or someone you know fell into that oh so easily slipped into trap mentioned above: women so anxious to be with someone, that they overlook what the person is telling then and end up incredibly hurt and angry in the end when things don't work out they way they'd hoped. Ladies, you've got to understand that when a man says, "I'm not looking for a relationship, right now," he means he's NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW! It's just that simple. He may think you're great. He may think the sex with you is the best he's ever had. He may think you're the best thing since cornbread. But that still doesn't mean he's looking to make you his lady.

The reality is for men relationships have a lot to do about where they are in life. Maybe he wants to focus on his career. Maybe he just got out of a relationship and wants to be single for awhile. Maybe he just isn't ready for the responsibility of having a girlfriend. Whatever the reason it adds up to the same thing: He isn't looking for a relationship right now. So listen when the man of your dreams tells you that. Listen and listen well. Be his friend. Be his confidante. And most importantly keep your panties on. And maybe just maybe when he's ready for a relationship he'll remember what a great friend he had, one who was there for him when it mattered and think, "Why look somewhere else for Mrs. Right when she has been right here with me all along."

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