Is Chivalry Dead - Should It Be?

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Is it really necessary to open all doors, pay every bill and throw coats into puddles? I think not, though chivalry does comes in handy during the initial stages of dating. Chivalry is a great way to convince your lovely lady that you mean business. What girl doesn't want a guy to go out of his way doing nice things for her. The downside is that constant chivalry can be a drain on an established relationship.

The modern girlfriend realizes that in all fairness her man shouldn't have to pay for everything or constantly be her knight in shinning armor (the "gold digger" has yet to realize that she is nothing more then a glorified prostitute). An equal partnership is the most fulfilling and least stressful partnership.

A modern relationship has more room to thrive if both partners simply respect each other and make an effort to blur the lines between the sexes. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't treat her to a dinner out or flowers, it just means that she should turn the tables once in a while and pay for game tickets.

Giving gifts should never be about how much you spend but about how much you care. Aside from spending any money at all, be sure to be chivalrous in your actions. Being considerate towards each other on a daily basis helps create a unified bond. Bring home his favorite chocolate bar next time you're grocery shopping, leave a note of encouragement for her on the day of her big interview.

Grand gestures are nice on occasion so long as they aren't consistently one sided. So all of you Prince Charmings out there it's time to expect a little more from your damsel because she's really not in terrible distress.

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