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    <outline type="rss"  title="&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;small&amp;gt;&amp;lt;font color=#B0B0B0&amp;gt;Article source: &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;http://www.online-dating-advice.net/&amp;quot;&amp;gt;http://www.online-dating-advice.net/&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;. Used with author's permission.&amp;lt;/font&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/small&amp;gt;&amp;lt;!-- AdCentsPro --&amp;gt;   &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;More American women over 45 are single, than ever before. According to the latest population surveys, someone turns 50 every 8 seconds in the U.S. and more than half of that figure is female.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;According to Christian Science Monitor writer, Marilyn Gardner, To newly minted singles coming out of long marriages, the prospect of dating can be daunting.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;At the initial phase of dating, the boomer woman may want to ask herself, why date?  In other words, what is the objective?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;In 2003, AARP conducted a study asking participants why they dated and found the single most important...reason...is to have someone to talk to or do things with.  This reason accounted for almost half of the singles in the study.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;One woman from an email group didnt agree, If these two reasons were the only reason for a woman to date it might be less complicated if she ran around with another woman instead of a man. She wouldn't have to worry about giving the guy the wrong signals. If I dated a guy it would also be because I found him sexually attractive, she said.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Other reasons from the study included: to have fun, find a partner, find someone to marry and to fulfill sexual needs.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Understanding why you want to date is an important first step in the process. This gives you a clear objective and eliminates unnecessary time spent in relationships that have nothing to do with your objective.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;In addition to dating motivations, the new single should consider what type of relationship they want. Susan Dunn, EQ coach of Momentum Coaching asks, Companionship without commitment? Is that with or without sex? Do you want long-term and sex? Is that with or without commitment? Friend with benefits? Benefits without friendship? Marriage? Is that marriage with or without fidelity?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Once you know what you want, you can learn to ask for what you want. Dont be shy when you begin dating, the time (and heart) you save is your own.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Knowing when youre ready to date is just as important as why. Generally, experience and distance from relationships gives a person not just a needed break, but also some insight into their motivations and what they need from a relationship.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;If youre going to step out again here are a few things to consider: &amp;lt;ol&amp;gt; &amp;lt;li&amp;gt;Are you mentally prepared to deal with whatever situation may arise?&amp;lt;/li&amp;gt; &amp;lt;li&amp;gt;Is your self-esteem at a high point?&amp;lt;/li&amp;gt; &amp;lt;li&amp;gt;Do you have confidence in your choices and avoid second guessing yourself?&amp;lt;/li&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;If you have these three collared, youre ready to get back out there.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;  Carla R. Herrera is a freelance writer and author of &amp;lt;i&amp;gt;The Contemporary Womans Guide to Midlife: Essays and Resources for Life Transitions.&amp;lt;/i&amp;gt; Shes currently working on her next book, Contemporary Womans Guide to Midlife Dating and publishes an online magazine for midlife women, &amp;lt;a target=&amp;quot;_new&amp;quot; href=&amp;quot;http://contemporaryguide.com/&amp;quot;&amp;gt;40+&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; " text="&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;small&amp;gt;&amp;lt;font color=#B0B0B0&amp;gt;Article source: &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;http://www.online-dating-advice.net/&amp;quot;&amp;gt;http://www.online-dating-advice.net/&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;. Used with author's permission.&amp;lt;/font&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/small&amp;gt;&amp;lt;!-- AdCentsPro --&amp;gt;   &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;More American women over 45 are single, than ever before. According to the latest population surveys, someone turns 50 every 8 seconds in the U.S. and more than half of that figure is female.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;According to Christian Science Monitor writer, Marilyn Gardner, To newly minted singles coming out of long marriages, the prospect of dating can be daunting.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;At the initial phase of dating, the boomer woman may want to ask herself, why date?  In other words, what is the objective?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;In 2003, AARP conducted a study asking participants why they dated and found the single most important...reason...is to have someone to talk to or do things with.  This reason accounted for almost half of the singles in the study.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;One woman from an email group didnt agree, If these two reasons were the only reason for a woman to date it might be less complicated if she ran around with another woman instead of a man. She wouldn't have to worry about giving the guy the wrong signals. If I dated a guy it would also be because I found him sexually attractive, she said.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Other reasons from the study included: to have fun, find a partner, find someone to marry and to fulfill sexual needs.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Understanding why you want to date is an important first step in the process. This gives you a clear objective and eliminates unnecessary time spent in relationships that have nothing to do with your objective.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;In addition to dating motivations, the new single should consider what type of relationship they want. Susan Dunn, EQ coach of Momentum Coaching asks, Companionship without commitment? Is that with or without sex? Do you want long-term and sex? Is that with or without commitment? Friend with benefits? Benefits without friendship? Marriage? Is that marriage with or without fidelity?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Once you know what you want, you can learn to ask for what you want. Dont be shy when you begin dating, the time (and heart) you save is your own.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Knowing when youre ready to date is just as important as why. Generally, experience and distance from relationships gives a person not just a needed break, but also some insight into their motivations and what they need from a relationship.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;If youre going to step out again here are a few things to consider: &amp;lt;ol&amp;gt; &amp;lt;li&amp;gt;Are you mentally prepared to deal with whatever situation may arise?&amp;lt;/li&amp;gt; &amp;lt;li&amp;gt;Is your self-esteem at a high point?&amp;lt;/li&amp;gt; &amp;lt;li&amp;gt;Do you have confidence in your choices and avoid second guessing yourself?&amp;lt;/li&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;p&amp;gt;If you have these three collared, youre ready to get back out there.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;  Carla R. Herrera is a freelance writer and author of &amp;lt;i&amp;gt;The Contemporary Womans Guide to Midlife: Essays and Resources for Life Transitions.&amp;lt;/i&amp;gt; Shes currently working on her next book, Contemporary Womans Guide to Midlife Dating and publishes an online magazine for midlife women, &amp;lt;a target=&amp;quot;_new&amp;quot; href=&amp;quot;http://contemporaryguide.com/&amp;quot;&amp;gt;40+&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt; " url="http://www.findbestdating.com/dating-at-midlife-whats-a397.html"/>
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