Author: Sebastian Drake
Article source: http://www.fast-dating.co.uk/. Used with author's permission.
Let's take a step back, my friend.
I love the techniques and flourishes used to meet
women, and date them. And make solid connections
and relationships, if that's your bag, or get
laid, if that's what you'd like. Or both.
But there's one little big thing that's
absolutely crucial to your success.
You need to take the time to become a more
attractive person.
Most people don't like how they look to some
extent. And many people use this as an excuse to
not try their best. I hear men acting defeated
that they're not six feet tall, so they don't
even try. They let themselves go entirely.
Let me tell you: A woman will take a guy of just
about any height that's well-groomed, healthy,
and fashionable over a tall guy who is a mess.
If you're serious about getting the women of your
dreams, you should make a commitment to spend a
few minutes each day grooming yourself.
A big list of little things that'll make you
infinitely more attractive:
-Doing your hair
-Cutting your fingernails
-Washing your face
-Taking a shower
-Styling your hair
-Shaving or trimmering your beard
-Clean clothes
-Clothes that fit your figure well
-Chapstick or lip balm
-Adjusting clothing to look good
(tucking/untucking, how many buttons done up,
etc)
-Cleaning your shoes
-Color coordinating an outfit
-Brushing/flossing
-Breathmints
-Eating healthy for even just a few days in a row
-Any kind of exercise, even just 20 pushups once
a day
And so on.
Doing little things like that will make a drastic
difference. Get a haircut. If you've got a
collared shirt, go get it pressed at the dry
cleaner's. There's now convenient teeth whitening
strips available at the grocery store. I did it,
and I'm really happy I did. My teeth sparkle.
Took me a few minutes a day for a couple weeks.
Don't do these things to "get women". They'll
help a lot, but the main reason you should be
doing this is for you.
And treat yourself to a couple cool, simple
accessories. I like to buy relatively cheap
sunglasses because I seem to lose shades about
every three months, but I have fun with them
while I've got them. My current pair is light
blue and transparent. My last pair were throwback
70's-style rose-colored shades.
Rings are good. If you don't want to make a big
production or commitment to getting a piece of
jewelry, just go put $2 worth of quarters into
the little jewelry machine in front of any
supermarket. You'll probably get 1 or 2
interesting rings that'll fit on your pinky.
Get a bracelet or a necklace that has some
meaning behind it. It doesn't have to be
outrageous. A silver necklace from your religion,
if you have one, is good. A Crucifix, Star of
David, or Moon and Star will work fine. Could be
a symbol from one of the planets. It could be
anything with something interesting, unique, or
important to you on it.
It'll help with conversation and it'll make you
stand out from the others a little bit. Bracelets
go the same way, by the way. Though it's quite
mainstream, something simply like a Lance
Armstrong "Live Strong" bracelet would show some
character and style on your part.
Something I make sure to tell my wealthy
students: It's more important that your
accessories are stylish and interesting than they
show you're wealthy. For example, a friend of
mine is involved in real estate and does pretty
well. He has two watches: One is a blue-faced
solid gold Rolex. The other is a cheap Nike
runner's watch.
He's into the study of seduction himself, and he
came to find his yellow runner's watch is better
for meeting women than his Rolex. Of course, this
varies, but being interesting and stylish is far
more important than appearing rich (which you can
appear to some extent if you're not wealthy, but
carry yourself well).
Body language and posture: I could go on about
subtle nuances of body language for a while, but
let me give you two major components. First, rise
up to your full height. Never slouch, slump, or
such. You'll look defeated. Rise up to your full
height regardless of if you're short or tall.
Second, pick your chin up. Everywhere. Hold your
head high, so your chin is parallel to the ground
at worst. Having your chin pointed higher,
towards the sky, is okay, but never look down
towards the ground as you walk, sit, or talk with
someone.
Do little things. Technique takes a bit of time
to develop, and is great, but you can greatly
supplement your technique by taking just a few
minutes to do one little thing for yourself. Sebastian Drake has been writing in the fields of Seduction, Diplomacy, and Leadership for the past five years. In the past two years, he has won praise and accolodates for his oustanding and effective coaching on live programs, workshops, and seminars. He is a cofounder of theApproach: The Science of Social Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman, bringing profound lifestyle changes to any man's social, romantic, and sex life.
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